Do you have trouble saying “No”? Many women and men are traditionally taught to avoid saying “no”, especially when facing authority figures. Some of us are told from a young age that we’re not supposed to say “no” to our parents, relatives, teachers, bosses, and others. There may be cultural,gender, social, religious, or institutional pressure to conform and please. Often there’s a fear of rejection, a desire to avoid confrontation, or guilt over hurting others’ feelings.
Of course, it’s important to say “no” when necessary, in order to protect our boundaries and maintain one’s own priorities. Below are seven ways to say “no” effectively.
For example, if your friend asks to borrow your car, and you’re uncomfortable with the idea, you can either be direct and say “no”, or you can use any of the following, assertive yet diplomatic expressions to draw the line:
“I prefer to be the only one driving my car.“
“I prefer not to lend out my car.”
“It doesn’t work for me to lend out my car.”
“It’s important to me that I keep my car for my own use.”
“Unfortunately, I’m not going to be able to lend you my car.”
“I’m uncomfortable with letting others drive my car.“
“I made a promise to myself that I’m not going to let other people drive my car.”
Source: Psychology Today