Selfishness is a virtue on more than few instances. I don’t mean those times when you would rather not share your food as a child or your personal hotspot as an adult; I mean when you truly become selfish because you care. Selfishness is recommended in more ways than one for you to live a high quality life that comes complete with a healthy emotional wellbeing. Such instances are as follows:
- Exposure to stress: It is very important that you identify your stress triggers and actively work to reduce your exposure to such. This could be as simple as clicking the mute button on your own conversation (online and offline) or outrightly removing yourself from the presence of a stressor.
- Refusing to pick up an offense: You stoop low to pick an offense. You belittle yourself when you stoop low to pick an offense. Leave an offense where it belongs; beneath you.
- Safeguarding your heart: You don’t have to be the audience for everything. Be selective about what you pay attention to.
- Attending to toxicity: You do not need to attend (sic) every argument that you are invited to. Even if you attend, endeavour to leave early.
- You are confident and you know it: Having an attitude steeped in humility is not the same as you being timid. Your humility should be the strength needed to spice up your confidence. Do not be shy about communicating how confident you are and by all means, confidently enjoy the perks that come with the attitude.
- Your thoughts are sacred: You are the author of your own thoughts and the shaper of the interpretation to such thoughts. Don’t allow random folks to project their interpretation of your thoughts on you and get you to question your own intelligence.
- Speaking words of impact to yourself: Do not hold back in celebrating yourself, rewarding yourself and speaking positive words to yourself. My quick recommendation should be that you daily say to yourself that your results are undeniable, your impact is irrefutable and that your cutting edge is sharp.
- Ignore the group-think: Stop seeking shallow alliances that are steeped on a currency of compliance. You are unique and your thoughts are excellent. Trust in your ability to influence and don’t immerse yourself in the mediocrity that comes with being a part of the group-think.
- You are the boss of your emotions: Intentionally decide who you should emotionally be yoked with. Never get emotionally attached to rolling stones. They will add immense stress to you and leave with zero care. Remember, a rolling stone gathers no moss.
I sincerely hope that these words will spur you to intentionally make that decision to live the best life ever and refuse to apologise for the privileges that come with embracing selfishness. I have been in a position where I could not make the distinction between when to be selfish and when it is not necessary. Doubtless, my emotional health suffered and my wellbeing nosedived. Don’t learn from your own mistakes when you can learn from that of another individual.
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