Will You Resign So That Your Husband Can Be Employed In Your Organization?

A friend of mine recently got a job offer with a bank that will see him go from a Manager to a Senior Manager. A position that comes with a higher salary juicy perks and bonuses. But there was one snag which could see him loose the job. His wife worked in the new bank and the bank has a policy that excludes staff from the same family working in the same organization.

A choice had to be made by him. It’s either he forgoes the job and saves his wife from loosing hers, thereby loosing a career opportunity or taking the job and rendering his wife jobless for the sake of his career. This is a delicate situation most families find themselves in since the banking crisis took hold.

Issues like this typically cause disaffection and if not handled properly can lead to a break up in marriage. From a financial standpoint it may be easy to make a decision if the income the husband will derive from accepting the job offer is more than the income of him and his wife combined should he reject the offer. But the decisions like this bother more on mutual understanding of the husband and wife and on the basis that whatever decision they take is in the best interest of the family. For example, if he accepts the job on the basis of the income being more could the set back in the career of the wife be a costly price on their relationship? These are issues that are beyond financial gains that should be taking into consideration.

My friend did take the job “on the insistence of his wife” who was once a prize winner when she was writing her professional exams. According to him she believed his career was more important for now. He is right now not having any of that, despite taking the job, believing that his wife’s brilliance must not be wasted. She is currently looking for another job.